Let Go, Find Peace, and Grow

Sometimes, when times are difficult, people may tell you to just “let go.” Although this may seem like the easiest thing to do to the person on the outside, for various reasons which are different for each individual, letting go can be just as difficult as the situation you are battling. Situations, memories, people, and even things are only a few of the things that you have to learn to let go. The first thing that comes to mind when someone tells you to “let go” is to just completely forget about it and move on. This does not always work and from what I have learned, letting go does not always mean you have to walk away from your circumstances.

Depending on the situation, letting go does not mean that you completely cut yourself off from another; it may simply mean that you cannot control anyone else and you have to let life happen and just be. Just let go of the situation and how it appears and calm your thoughts; and know that whatever comes your way, it will be okay. It does not mean that you stop caring for that person; neither does it mean that you enable the person. In these instances you may simply have to allow the person to do whatever needs to be done for themselves without your help or support and that you allow them to learn from the natural consequences of their behavior. Letting go and allowing someone to make mistakes may not be easy, but it is the best way to teach them life lessons. Many times we want to be in the middle of situations arranging the outcomes, but you must allow others to affect their own destinies. That being said, if the situation is violent and causes physical harm to you, then other measures will need to be taken to help you let go and free yourself of that situation. Counseling, protective agencies, and family support are only a few suggestions. No person has the right to violate you or cause physical harm to you. You are worth more than that and your life is valuable. God desires only the best for us all.

Therefore, it is not your place to judge either because we all are human beings. You must not nag the person, scold the person, or argue with the person for the choices they make. Each of us has our own faults and shortcoming; and sometimes what you see in another may be a reflection of yourself that you need to work on correcting. That is because every circumstance is an opportunity for you to turn a problem into something positive. Instead of putting the energy into criticizing, regulating, controlling, or changing another you can use that same energy to make the most of yourself and become the best person you can be. Worrying about what someone else is doing is useless and it is added stress that does no good to the physical body. Surely, to let go also means that you cannot deny what has happened, you can only accept it without regret and grow yourself and live for the future. This is why letting go also requires you to be fearless and to love more. When you love others freely, you not only show love for yourself, but you bring hope for what seems impossible and change things forever.

In short, when you let go, you courageously admit your powerlessness. This only means that the outcome is out of your control. Be not dismayed and do not be confused. Courage asks much of you, however it is not as complicated as it seems and it is always available to you from within. Being courageous when it comes to letting go is making the choice that produces the best possible outcome. The more willing and grateful you are for the price you pay will result in the more you receive in return. Move forward in life with positive purpose and enthusiasm. Do not fear losing something so much that you instinctively hold so tightly to it and risk losing it even more. When you are willing to let go, you allow yourself opportunities and experiences that are different, new, and very likely even more enjoyable. Let go and enjoy those new possibilities.

“Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure.” -- Oprah Winfrey

“Courage is the power to let go of the familiar.” -- Raymond Lindquist

“Some think it's holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it's letting go.” -- Sylvia Robinson

“Inner peace can be reached only when we practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past, and is therefore the means for correcting our misperceptions.” -- Gerald Jampolsky

Peace and Blessings,

Kai